our well guarded inner world
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Most of us guard our inner worlds with moats and safeguards, only allowing entry to those who have gained our trust, which may take months or years requiring proof of safety & loyalty: virtual slaying of dragons before allowing the drawbridge to be lowered; with cautious entry to the courtyard.
I liken this to the process involved when a person decides to see a therapist or counsellor. It requires time to build the relationship, become familiar with family history, issues and address them one by one. In my own experience, I became frustrated when asked standard questions concerning relationships with parents and siblings.
After we discover an issue, voicing with someone about it may help, and writing pages about it might be therapeutic but overall, in my personal experiences, I felt that the analysis of my dreams and dissecting of my emotions were more like a Chinese finger puzzle: the harder I pulled the tighter it gripped!
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When I discovered applied kinesiology, using muscle response testing, we were able to go more directly to the core issue.
I often ask a person to make a 'shopping list' of the things that are bothering them or what they think 'the problem' is using short words like: chronic back pain, insecurity, relationship, or fear. These are all interesting, complex issues presented like a handful of marbles, and when we test to see if any of these are the primary issue, it is often not one of these, but it is a really big one hiding behind one's back, that needs to be addressed first. Interestingly, by the end of the session, many of the items on the list have also been included.
I often ask a person to make a 'shopping list' of the things that are bothering them or what they think 'the problem' is using short words like: chronic back pain, insecurity, relationship, or fear. These are all interesting, complex issues presented like a handful of marbles, and when we test to see if any of these are the primary issue, it is often not one of these, but it is a really big one hiding behind one's back, that needs to be addressed first. Interestingly, by the end of the session, many of the items on the list have also been included.
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To return to our 'Castle of Safety' image:
By comparison, finding issues by asking your system (using muscle response testing and a 'menu') to ask what the primary issue is, brings us swiftly to the place where answers can be found and addressed.
It is though an innocuous, little sparrow flies over the moat, past the guards, through the courtyard, into the inner sanctum and lands on the arm of the throne!
It can be a little surprising how effective, swift and direct this method can be, but it is your own body's guidance that has directed us there .
The only drawback is that once access is gained, there is a real need to not just talk about the issues but to make sure corrections and support measures have been fully applied.
To use a different analogy: Baking a Cake: It would be like taking all the ingredients of a cake, measuring and mixing (finding issues from very early childhood, or a family pattern going back several generations, or a longstanding defence mechanism) and then, instead of baking it, suggesting that we return to it next time. This would be frustrating to the client and they might spend the time in between fretting and agonizing over what we had discovered.
This may be the reason that most of our sessions cannot be the standard one hour, as the must be a sense of completion. There is usually 'post testing' to verify against the earlier information; also supportive measures: How will things be different? Is there anything such as a new behaviour that needs to be practised? Do you need to modify your self-talk? How long can one expect for the processing of the session?
It is an intriguing way of working and a privilege to be allowed into such private spaces, with unexpected responses. There will be a separate entry explaining 'muscle response testing' or physical biofeedback with reference books for further investigation.
By comparison, finding issues by asking your system (using muscle response testing and a 'menu') to ask what the primary issue is, brings us swiftly to the place where answers can be found and addressed.
It is though an innocuous, little sparrow flies over the moat, past the guards, through the courtyard, into the inner sanctum and lands on the arm of the throne!
It can be a little surprising how effective, swift and direct this method can be, but it is your own body's guidance that has directed us there .
The only drawback is that once access is gained, there is a real need to not just talk about the issues but to make sure corrections and support measures have been fully applied.
To use a different analogy: Baking a Cake: It would be like taking all the ingredients of a cake, measuring and mixing (finding issues from very early childhood, or a family pattern going back several generations, or a longstanding defence mechanism) and then, instead of baking it, suggesting that we return to it next time. This would be frustrating to the client and they might spend the time in between fretting and agonizing over what we had discovered.
This may be the reason that most of our sessions cannot be the standard one hour, as the must be a sense of completion. There is usually 'post testing' to verify against the earlier information; also supportive measures: How will things be different? Is there anything such as a new behaviour that needs to be practised? Do you need to modify your self-talk? How long can one expect for the processing of the session?
It is an intriguing way of working and a privilege to be allowed into such private spaces, with unexpected responses. There will be a separate entry explaining 'muscle response testing' or physical biofeedback with reference books for further investigation.